CHARLESTON AIR FORCE BASE, S.C. –
According to the National Teen Dating Violence Prevention Initiative, teens are more likely to be victims of intimate abuse than adults.
With a rate of abuse nearly triple that of any other age group, females ages 16 to 24 are the most vulnerable.
This abuse also increases the risk for substance abuse issues, weight control issues, risky sexual behaviors, suicide and pregnancy. Fifty-seven percent of teens reported knowing someone who has been physically, verbally or sexually abused by an intimate partner and 33 percent of youth have admitted to witnessing a violent event.
It is important to remember although females are more likely to be victims of abuse, males are victims as well. Despite this alarming information, 81 percent of surveyed parents stated they do not believe or do not know if dating violence is an issue. Fifty-four percent of parents admitted they have never addressed dating violence with their children.
Statistics show the majority of children are perpetrators, victims, witnesses or at least aware of teen violence. Parents need to address this issue directly and help protect and prepare their children. So, what can be done?
Of course, it is preferred to prevent children from ever experiencing abuse. But how is it possible? Educate children on healthy and unhealthy couple communication and boundaries. Talk to them about what they witness at school and on television. Encourage them to talk about difficult subjects. Talk to them about personal experiences.
When domestic violence is brought up in movies or the media, use it as an opportunity to talk to the teenager about it. Educate children on the warning signs they may be in a violent relationship.
Some signs include a partner saying they can't live without the other; blames the other for problems; breaks things or tries to intimidate; threatens to hurt themselves if the relationship ends; is jealous of time spent with other friends; or is constantly checking up on the other.
Warning signs for parents to watch for include grades and interest in activities decreasing since the relationship began, sudden and uncharacteristic changes in the youth's appearance or dress; bruising or damaged property; a change in communication or eating patterns; youth is isolating themselves from family and friends; youth's partner appears controlling and possessive; a partner's excessive phone calling or checking up on the youth.
If a child is in an abusive relationship, the first step is to talk to them. Ask them directly and indirectly. Do not badger, but do not let the issue slide either. If they will not talk, try to get them to open up to someone else. Educate the teenager on what healthy relationships are and be a good role model. Get help and counseling, and if the abuse is physical, call the police.
For more information, visit the information booths set up around the base throughout the month of October or call Family Advocacy at 963-6972.
With support and education, the cycle of abuse can end.